Our adoption journey began in 2001 when we adopted our then 4-year-old son from China. In 2007 our family was completed with the adoption of a 6 -year-old daughter, also from China. As parents of three biological children, we went into adoption believing that we had many of “the answers.” Over the years. our youngest children showed us there were still lessons to be learned. WACAP‘s Support and Solutions Group has been a wonderful resource through it all.
The group is a wonderfully supportive environment to explore life with an older adopted child, and the challenges and opportunities they present. I have learned ways to approach problems, ideas for academic success, places to go for testing, thoughts on handling grief and discussing birth parents, and so much more. Each group is different, with a changing mix of people in attendance and different problems to discuss. We celebrate when a strategy works or continue brainstorming when a parent feels as though they’ve tried everything. Through it all, we manage to laugh quite a bit at the unique situations our families sometimes face. The group is a great place to celebrate commitment to family and to assisting our children in becoming whole, happy functioning members of our families and the greater community.
WACAP’s Support and Solutions Group is different each time, so I try to go as often as I can, and encourage others to do the same. In fact, if you don’t live near WACAP headquarters, I’d encourage you to find a similar group in your area. Some days we laugh a lot, other times, it gets pretty serious. Whether you have an older adopted child or are considering adopting, the people at groups like this one are invaluable resources to making your adoption journey successful.
Pam Stiles-Anderson is a WACAP mom and dedicated volunteer. Thanks Pam, for sharing your thoughts!