This WACAP family shares their foster-to-adoption story, marveling at the joy their daughter brings and at something else unexpected: “One of the best parts of our daughter’s adoption ” they share, “has been building a relationship with her biological parents …”
Finding Unexpected Gifts
This past March, my husband and I were hiking alone along a crumbling, rarely traveled section of the Great Wall of China and thinking “how could life get any better than this?” and little did we know … the happiest day of our lives was yet to come.
Last year, on National Adoption Day, we officially adopted our daughter. She is the most incredible little girl ever, only really she is.
An Afternoon Phone Call
She entered our lives via a phone call at 2:30 p.m. on a Thursday afternoon, and by 5 p.m., we were arriving at the hospital to pick her up.
As newbie licensed foster parents, we didn’t know if our first placement would be an infant, toddler, or preschooler, so we had held off on furnishing our apartment with much more than just a crib.
We never imagined that we’d only have a couple hours to prepare, so we hurried to buy a car seat, and relied on my sister to run and pick up all other usual newborn items. After a rather surreal series of hours at the hospital, we left with a fragile 4 pound, six-day old baby girl.
Only it turned out she wasn’t fragile at all. Our daughter is a strong, bright, and super easy-going baby.
Foster-to-Adoption: Realities, Emotions and Surprises
Though we became foster parents to ultimately adopt a child, we were prepared for the reality that some foster placements wouldn’t be permanent.
We spent the first couple months fraught with emotions as we grappled with the desire to see her parents succeed at reunification, but also wanting to keep this wonderful little person we fell in love with and share our future with her. Through letters and messages we discovered we share similar world views and interests with her biological parents, which ultimately helped everything fall in place with an open adoption.
“One of the Best Parts of Our Adoption”
It surprised us that one of the best parts of our daughter’s adoption has been building a relationship with her birth parents and knowing they will be a part of our lives as she grows up.
Our little girl’s adoption day also marked 15 years since my husband and I went on our first date. I am not sure whether or not my mother appreciated such a long wait to get her first grandchild.
But here she is!